I saw a movie on the 23rd in which somebody said this. For a long time now, I have believed this.
Previously I too would ask questions like, ‘why me ?’ or make statements like ‘I don’t deserve this’.
Gradually I began to understand that the equations aren’t always as simple or direct or straightforward as that. Things that happen to me are not always a direct reciprocation of something that I did or did not do. It is more complex. It may be a cumulative of several things.
So I started digging much deeper beneath the surface to understand what were the things that have caused something to happen. Believe me, each time I have found that my actions or behaviour are definitely one of the many factors that usually cause an event to occur.
I may not be totally responsible for something to happen or not. But I am, at least, partly responsible. I can try to change my contribution to the situation so that the outcome may change to that extent.
Change ought to be from within. I shall try.